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What do a passionate and loyal war veteran from Texas, a loving and determined Packers fan from Wisconsin, and a creative and compassionate housewife from California have in common? They all want to be moms. Not just any moms, adoptive moms.
What do a passionate and loyal war veteran from Texas, a loving and determined Packers fan from Wisconsin, and a creative and compassionate housewife from California have in common? They all want to be moms. Not just any moms, adoptive moms.
Crystal,
Shelli, and Kristen would have never crossed paths if it wasn't for
the amazing, wonderful, stressful journey that is adoption. Each has
struggled, along with their husbands, with different stories of
infertility. Each has imagined holding a child in their arms. Each
couple has opened their hearts to open adoption, with the goal of a
healthy, happy, and supportive relationship with an expectant mom. Each
is waiting for a phone call and a dream to come true.
While
they wait, they wait actively. Between Crystal's schedule as a
registrar and Certified Nursing Assistant in Wisconsin, Shelli's work as
a Nurse Anesthetist in Texas, and Kristen's work as a volunteer and
homemaker in California, they have all made time to connect and support
one another through social media. They share resources, advice, and
inspiration. After meeting through their individual blogs, each was
inspired by the others. Now each one shares the other's stories on
community Facebook pages and regularly leaves encouraging comments on
posts. If one finds a helpful resource they pass it on. For them, there
is nothing competitive about adoption. Crystal, Shelli, and Kristen all
want to be mothers and all want the others to achieve the same dream.
For
each woman, adoption means pure love. While in time, each will become a
mother through adoption, for now social media has allowed them to
become friends. Facebook, Twitter, and blogging are fast becoming widely
used tools in connecting expectant moms with waiting families. Using
these tools, each of these woman feel connected to the children they
haven't yet met. They can also provide expectant moms with information
and a means of support and contact. Social media, to them, feels like a
way to reach out and comfort one another through the uncertainty.
Crystal and Chad (Picture by Oh! Photography) |
Shelli
and Adam met as army reservists and have been married a year and a
half. Both knew going into marriage that starting a family would be a
challenge. They
tried IVF but ultimately knew adoption was the path for
them. They have been on their adoption journey for five months and are
very excited to be parents. Here's what Shelli writes about her
experiences with social media and adoption. "Social media has been
surprisingly helpful. I have had some very good advice and words of
encouragement from some very surprising sources. It is also a nice
outlet for my energy during the wait. It helps me feel like I am doing
something. Becoming a family is a process with many emotions. It is
definitely a roller coaster ride of ups and downs! I can empathize with
anyone that wants to be a mother, and I know what it is like to reach
out to others for support. That is why I have not hesitated to offer
support to others when I can. I found Crystal and Kristen through their
blogs and felt an immediate connection to their stories. I don’t know
who is helping whom more! I know there are babies out there for all of
us, and I am looking forward to seeing God’s plans for us." To prepare
for their future as parents through adoption, they have read books and
blog, and have attended multiple webinars on adoption. Shelli also
writes on their blog "We Love St. Patrick's Day" and frequently posts to
their Facebook page of the same title. Shelli is grateful to have
support through social media while she and Adam wait for their little
one to come home.
Shelli and Adam |
Kristen and Josh |
Kristen
and Josh are high school sweethearts married for seven years. After
many years of fertility struggles and losses they have found hope and
peace in adoption. For them, the goal is parenthood, not pregnancy. Here
is what Kristen writes about social media and the adoption process. "We
have been waiting for our little one to come home for about a year and
half now, but it's only been in recent months that I've used social
media to broaden our exposure. We are taking the viewpoint that we
should pray like it depends on God and act like it depends on us. While
we totally trust and acknowledge God's timing and plan for our family,
there's no reason to sit around and do nothing. Social media has been an
outlet for me to connect with other people in the adoption community,
learn about different adoption stories (because no two are alike), and
connect with and support other families during the wait. Blogging
especially has been a great tool to focus on my blessings and share our
trials. I feel particularly blessed to have met Crystal and Shelli.
Knowing that we are connected through our desire to be mothers and that
we likely would have never met if we weren't on the same adoption road,
is amazing to me. The three of us are so different and so the same.
Adoption is the great equalizer!" While they wait for parenthood,
Kristen and Josh enjoy making videos about their adoption process on
YouTube (Josh&Kristen WantToAdopt). Kristen also writes a blog
called "Adoption Love" and posts to a Facebook community page of the
same title. Social media has provided a great outlet, source of comfort,
and a way to keep friends and family updated on their adoption journey.
To
some, social media may seem cold and impersonal, but to these three
woman and many others waiting to be parents through adoption, it's a way
to reach out. To them it has become a kind of "nesting" as they prepare
to grow their families. These unlikely friends have connected through
social media and support one another through their "paper pregnancies".
*UPDATE 8.31.14- All three families are now home with their little bundles of joy!
*UPDATE 8.31.14- All three families are now home with their little bundles of joy!
It can be an amazing thing to make good friends through social media in spite of geographic distance, people who understand your journey.
ReplyDeleteBest wishes to you all.
Glad to know them both! Thanks Lori!
DeleteWe've walked the path you have chosen, and the view is spectacular! God bless you as you wait to be picked by your child's super hero mom. It's the journey of a lifetime. Blessings!
ReplyDeleteThank you for your kind words and support Colleen!
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